It’s my anniversary week and I must say it’s not really going well. I’ve been in a shit mood. I’m weepy as hell. And I’m just generally pissed off. Unfortunately, I also seem to be taking it out on everyone I love.

I didn’t realize it would hit me like this. Things have been going so well. But I guess that’s the nature of grief and heartbreak. Most days are normal. And then some are pure hell. And I’m currently in pure hell.

I don’t remember what Ash said when he proposed to me. Being pregnant, and knowing where we were headed, it was a little anticlimactic. We were living in Denver, CO in the super swanky neighborhood with the crazy homeless general and the den of a million foxes next door (that might be an exaggeration). Like I said, super swanky. We took Bogey, our chocolate lab, for a walk. We ended up at a park. Ash sat me down, probably said something nice I would assume (or maybe not, you never know with him) and then asked me to marry him (I said yes by the way, in case that wasn’t obvious). The ring was gorgeous and also way too big but I loved it and I loved him. We walked home hand in hand with smiles on our faces all the while puppy Bogey was trying to bite the diamond off my hand. Apparently diamonds are a dogs best friend, not man as originally thought.

I believe we got engaged sometime in May but I’m not so great with dates so that could be totally wrong. I know we got married in August and my mom kindly reminded me it was the 9th, which I sort of knew but also thought it could have been the 8th. The wedding was short and hot but also one of the best days of my life. I guess now I could also classify it as one of the worst days of my life because here we are on year 11, and I’m still Mrs. Jones but Mr. Jones has flown the fucking coup. And that just plain sucks.

By our first anniversary, we had moved back to my home town in North Carolina and so began the tradition of anniversary dinner at our favorite Colington Cafe where I would indulge in too much wine, too much rich food, overheat from all the said wine and rich food, and leave my handsome groom at the table halfway through dinner to go sit in the car in the a/c, take my ridiculously over the top high heels off and try not to vomit. I am the definition of sexy. And romantic. Eventually, around year 7, we learned – sexy time before dinner so when Kellie overindulges yet again, everyone is still happy.

Last year, we spent our anniversary in Durango, CO where we went on tiny hikes, long drives and essentially said goodbye to each other. We didn’t have our kids with us so it was a good time to let it all out. And we did. All our thoughts, all our feelings and more tears than I knew any 2 humans could cry. It was by no means the trip of a lifetime but it is a trip I will never forget in my lifetime. Until the Alzheimer’s hits at least.

And now he’s gone. No more Colington Cafe. No more sexy time. No more unsexy time. No more short hikes or long drives. Still plenty of tears but now I cry them alone. And right now, I don’t think I’ve ever felt more alone in my life. And tired. I’m so fucking tired.

It’s not always like this. It’s just this week. I hate this week. And I equal parts love this week. But I miss my groom, my date for life, my best friend and my worst enemy.

I do have a large distraction this weekend to help get me through – a ladies only fishing tournament. My children are going to stay with my parents (thank you parents) for a few days and I’m really going to live it up with some great ladies and maybe catch a marlin while I’m at it. I will pour one out for Ash. I will celebrate our marriage. And I will also curse him the fuck out for leaving me way too soon.